Couples therapy deals with the quality of the relationship between two individuals who identify themselves as a couple through a long-term relationship or marriage. There’s an expectation that we should all know intuitively how to have healthy, loving relationships, but the truth is we don’t. We try our best but often get stuck in cycles of conflict.
The same pattern repeats over and over and no matter how hard you both try – you can’t get out of it. It is draining and can leave you feeling defeated. Our experienced couples and family therapists help couples to gain new perspectives and move forward.
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”
– Maya Angelou
My therapy approach
When a couple enters into therapy, it is considered to be one unit. This means that my allegiance is to the couple’s “unit,” and not to either partner as individuals. I find this is particularly important in creating a space where both partners can feel safe. Therefore, I adhere to a strict “No Secrets” policy. This means that I will not hold secrets for either partner. This policy is intended to allow me to continue to treat the couple by preventing, to the extent possible, a conflict of interest to arise where an individual’s interests may not be consistent with the interests of the unit being treated.
On occasion during the therapy process, individual partners may be seen for an individual therapy session. In this case, the individual session is still considered part of the couple’s therapy relationship. Information disclosed during individual sessions may be relevant or even essential to the proper treatment of the couple. If an individual chooses to share such information with me, I will offer the individual every opportunity to disclose the relevant information and will provide guidance in this process.
If the individual refuses to disclose this information within the couple’s session, I may determine that it is necessary to discontinue the therapeutic relationship with the couple. If there is information that an individual desires to address within the context of individual confidentiality, I will be happy to provide referrals to therapists who can provide concurrent individual therapy. This policy is intended to maintain the integrity of the couple’s therapeutic relationship.
In addition, I also provide parental guidance for those who need some assistance in the demanding task of raising a well-adjusted child. We are also passionate about helping couples who have decided to get divorced to do so amicably and to help blended families to adjust optimally to their own unique setup. Couples therapy, also sometimes referred to as relationship therapy, marriage therapy or marital therapy, builds the communication skills couples need to negotiate life’s challenges. More effective communication contributes to a sense of fulfilment in your relationship.
Research shows that couples who engage in this type of therapy before their relationship deepens or before they commit to marriage dramatically improve their chances of having a successful long-term relationship. Pre-emptive input from an experienced therapist can create effective habits for communication and aid the blossoming long-term relationship.